Bullying is an all-too-common workplace issue. And if reports are correct, it seems to be on the rise.
Workplace bullying is one of the most damaging issues for any organization, as it can affect employee productivity, financial performance, and brand strength. On top of that, there's no moral justification for letting it happen.
Employees deserve to work in comfortable environments of psychological safety. They should be able to relax, be themselves, and collaborate with others without fear or emotional upset.
Below, we'll explore different types of bullying in the workplace and consider the state of workplace bullying in 2021 and beyond. We'll explain what you can do about it, too - whether you're a victim of bullying yourself, or you're a manager trying to deal with it.
It's fairly easy to understand why this is important. Bullying is a workplace issue that can have tons of negative impacts on employees, management, company culture, and overall productivity.
If bullying becomes widespread enough, stories can leak out to the public and damage your brand - nobody wants to do business with a company of bullies, and not many people want to work in a place where bullies can get away with it.
Workplace bullying can have mild to severe impacts on victims, including:
If it's obvious that one person is a bully, others might alter their behavior to avoid their attention. They might be reluctant to do anything distinctive that makes them stand out, or they could shy away in situations that require collaborative creativity. And even when bullies are dealt with by management, there's a loss of productivity while they have to go through disciplinary procedures, maybe even getting suspended too.
Bullying can cause trust issues within your teams, too; not just directly between the bully and the bullied employee, but across the organization, fostering a culture of secrecy, gossip, and paranoia if left unchecked.
There's also a measurable financial cost to bullying. If staff leave due to being bullied, there are the obvious costs of replacing them and training new staff. But there's also the possibility of dealing with costly legal action if things get to a certain point, too. And higher incidences of sick leave and lower productivity will have a financial impact, as well.
No matter how competitive and high-pressure your work culture is, when positive aggression tips over into harmful bullying, you have to act quickly and decisively to stamp it out.
Here are some workplace bullying examples that show you the different ways in which it can manifest.
This is the first thing that comes to mind when most people hear the word 'bully'. Intimidation takes the form of abusive conduct through verbal aggression or an act of violence. It might involve pushing someone up against a wall and yelling their face, but it's more likely to consist of name-calling, insults, aggressive language, or threats.
A microaggression is a term that's used to describe the casual degradation of an individual through offhand comments or seemingly innocent questions. It's a type of workplace discrimination that's disguised in polite conversation and isn't always intentional, but it certainly can be harmful.
Comments might focus on ethnicity (eg. saying "you speak English very well" to someone who was born in the US with a non-caucasian background), sexuality, gender, social status, physical attributes, and more. Essentially, they subtly imply that the target is different than the rest of the group, which is upsetting, especially if it happens frequently.
This can consist of actual physical assault (unwanted touching or exposure), or inappropriate sexual comments directed towards someone. Sexual harassment can take place between coworkers, but it also occurs when there's a power dynamic, which might manifest as unwanted sexual advances from a higher-up.
Times are changing, and people have different views on what's appropriate in the workplace and what isn't. While some teams have a slightly higher tolerance for bawdy jokes and flirtatious comments, there's a thin line between fun and harm.
This form of workplace bullying is a serious issue, with potential legal ramifications and severe consequences. It's crucial for every company to understand what constitutes sexual harassment, and to have a process for dealing with it fairly.
Spreading rumors about someone (whether true or false) is an intentional attempt to undermine someone in the eyes of their colleagues. When someone spreads gossip about you, it means they're trying to both make you look bad, but also ingratiate themselves with others. It creates a noticeable divide in the workplace: damaged relationships are hard to repair, and it's hard to correct a lie once everyone's started to believe it.
Gossiping is a cruel and cowardly form of bullying because it's easy to get away with and hard to trace when you need to find out who started it.
Related to intimidation, these are occasional displays of excessive dominance and aggression that go over and above what's expected within your organization's culture.
A bully might make a power play by trying to take credit for someone else's work, or swooping in to take opportunities that should really be given to someone else.
This is a wide range of behaviors that include general rudeness, discourteous behavior, talking too loudly, being messy, or having inappropriate conversations.
For example, if someone isn't comfortable with conversations around a certain topic, a bully might deliberately talk about those things within earshot of the targeted person.
Incivility in the workplace isn't always the same as bullying, but it does sometimes overlap. It's also not always targeted specifically at a single person, so you might not define it as bullying, but it can upset people and distract them from their work. So it's worth looking out for and addressing, just like the other types.
This tactic means a workplace bully will ignore the person they're targeting while continuing to engage socially with other co-workers at lunchtime, during meetings, and so on.
They might exclude a coworker from gatherings by not inviting them even though they've got just as much a right to attend as anyone else. If questioned about it, they might brush it off as a simple error.
This can also be done as a refusal to cooperate. Giving someone the silent treatment is a particularly childish way to make them feel excluded, but it can also be done in more subtle ways. 'Accidentally' removing someone from the group's casual Slack channel would be one way to do it. Another would be leaving it too late to let them know about an event which needs to be booked, so they aren't able to attend.
These underhand tactics are a cruel and effective way of making people feel outcast.
This includes practical jokes - it's so easy to say "it's just a joke, why are you so upset?"
This also goes for playing practical jokes on someone. While it can be a fun bonding experience for those that are really good friends, it becomes bullying when the recipient of the joke isn't laughing. For a practical joke to be a good one, both parties have to find it funny. Otherwise, it's just mean. Tread carefully with office practical jokes: they have to be very well-calibrated and can easily have pretty terrible consequences.
This is worth a mention because it's a potential channel for all the other types of bullying to go through. Essentially, it's bullying done through digital channels, which means a bully might send messages outside of work through social media -something which is harder for their employer to monitor. It could involve direct messages, or spreading someone's private information, or misrepresenting them online to tarnish their reputation.
The first thing to do if you're wondering how to deal with bullying at work is to tell someone about it.
It's not always easy to do, of course. You might have a more reserved personality type, or you could have had a bad experience in the past when trusting someone with a personal problem.
But talking is almost always your best starting point, whether it's with your line manager, a colleague, a close friend, or a family member. Getting it out of your head means you're under less of a mental burden keeping it a secret, and talking it through will make you feel better. What's more, you might end up getting some great advice on how to deal with the situation.
It's also important to keep records of everything. Bullies can spread their deeds out into multiple small-scale transgressions, which individually, don't seem much. It's hard to complain about little things without feeling a bit silly - which is the reaction they're looking for.
But if you note down details of each occurrence, you can build up a timeline that clearly illustrates a campaign of workplace harassment over time. You can take a report like this to management, presenting irrefutable evidence that you're being victimized. If it's noticeably affecting your job performance, any competent manager will want to intervene straight away.
Another option is to be proactive and confront the bully yourself - fight your corner.
You might think back to a parent telling you to "stand up for yourself" in the school playground when someone was bullying you - it's easier said than done. Or how about "just ignore them" - well-meaning advice that's nigh on impossible to follow when somebody really has it out for you. But if management isn't being especially helpful, it might turn out to be the most effective strategy.
Instead of going in all guns blazing, you could take a less confrontational route.
You could try letting the bully know how their words or actions made you feel. They'll already have a good idea, of course, if their actions are intentional, but by putting it all out there, it might cause a wave of guilt causing them to stop.
Try to figure out why they have a problem with you. Offer to lay it all out on the table, apologize for anything you might have done to upset them, and clear the air. This strategy won't work for every situation and does take a bit of bravery, but it might be the quickest, most effective way to solve your bully problem. You might even end up becoming friends with them.
There's a bunch of different bullying at work signs that you should look out for. When coworkers are having problems with a bully, they might be reluctant to bring attention to it. So here are some of the signs to look out for:
You might see one of these signs on its own, which doesn't necessarily mean they're being bullied. There might be a perfectly reasonable explanation.
But if you start noticing a couple of these signs together, something is probably going wrong for your coworker behind the scenes. Reach out, talk to them, and offer to help.
If you do spot some of the signs above, try to talk to your coworker in private - it's not something to bring up in a shared setting like over lunch.
Make sure you focus on their wellbeing, rather than blaming them or being accusatory. So instead of saying something like "I noticed your performance dropping recently, is there a reason?" - which will put them on the defensive - be compassionate. Say that you noticed them being a little bit withdrawn and you wanted to see if there was any way you could help.
It might take a bit of time for them to open up, but be patient.
If you think you know who the culprit might be, try something like "Are you having trouble with [person]?" Don't dig too deep, but give them the opportunity to share as much or as little as they're comfortable with.
It's important to support your coworkers, too. Stand up for them if you're a witness to them being bullied, and offer to accompany them to adjudication meetings so they don't have to face them alone.
There is a possibility that the person you report into is a bully - it's not entirely uncommon for people in leadership positions. They might continually question your commitment, overload you with unnecessary work, or question you inappropriately about your private life. This is a tricky one to deal with, and you'll have to be careful what you say to keep the peace in your work environment. But some general strategies can help:
If you're a manager, it's your responsibility to address workplace bullying. Here's how you should do it:
What kind of workplace culture are you trying to build? Are you comfortable being a leader within a hostile work environment?
Bullying and harassment in the workplace is a serious problem that needs to be addressed. Certain social movements from the 2010s onwards have given more people the confidence to speak up when they witness injustice in their organization, but there's still a long way to go.
Tackling bullying takes a combined effort from coworkers and management. Workers need to be supported both with the presence of official procedures and the confidence that their complaints will be taken seriously.
If workplace bullying goes unchecked, the negative effects on employees, management, and the public reputation of the company can be enormous - so it's something to deal with swiftly and judiciously.
Our programs were designed by world-renown coaches, and sessions only take 5-15 minutes. Get started for free with personalized program now by chatting in the box below:
Our expert coaches have designed hyper-effective programs that will help
you overcome workplace bullying.
Coach Marlee (your amazing AI-powered personal coach) will analyse your unique traits and goals to let you know which program to start with (and if there are any you should skip)!
Your recommended programs include:
Explore, strengthen and stand by what you believe in at work and in life. Trust in your ‘gut feel’ and point of view is especially helpful for meeting your personal needs, health and wellbeing and for living an authentic and meaningful life.
In this high impact nine week program Coach Marlee will help you to improve your mental health and general wellbeing while also helping you to break through self sabotage to develop life long skills for emotional resilience and self-esteem. Enjoy weekly cutting edge science backed wellbeing resources from both Marlee and our wellbeing partner Blisspot.
“Marlee helped me to work on my self-belief”
“This was a good reflection and trigger to make the decision that I was pondering!”
“Our fast-paced society pushes us to neglect our very human need to take a moment to pause and reflect. Marlee helped me get back in touch with that, and it has done wonders for my mental health!”
"With attention to detail program, I learned a whole new way to see and approach projects"
"Wow this program has totally changed my relationship to goals! Thanks so much Marlee, I miss you already"
“Trust Your Gut coaching program helped me build deeper levels of self-esteem and how I valued myself vis-a-vis the greater world. It also taught me courage to believe in my beliefs, and that it is not about success or failure, but that we give it a go, a try”
"I have learned how to communicate better using every tool I have in myself, especially in learning how to use my tone of voice"
“I discovered I need to be conscious of where I want to go - to get there”