Build strong family values with our 16 examples for 2024

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If the term 'family values' sounds too traditional or outdated for you, you're in for a big surprise. Every family has core values, whether they're articulated or not. These values are clear through the way families behave at home, how they interact with their community, and how parents raise their children.

By reflecting upon and clearly defining your family values, you'll have a stronger, healthier relationship with your relatives. And set your children up for success. Below, we'll discuss what family values are, why they're important, and how to discover yours. We'll even give you 16 examples of core family values to get your self-reflection started. Let's dive in!

Family values are guiding principles that inform how you and your family make decisions and live your lives. They outline what is important to your family and what you are all striving toward. If you have children, family values reflect how you want to raise them and what kind of adults you'd like to see them become. Typically, family values refer to the nuclear family (parents and children), but they can apply to extended family or chosen family as well.

Family values are informed by one's own upbringing, beliefs, political philosophy, religious beliefs, morals, geography, culture, and socioeconomic circumstances. For instance, let's look at two different families: One lives in the Philippines, and another lives in the U.S. Both families value respecting elders. For the family in the Philippines, living out that value means they live with three generations under one roof (children, parents, and grandparents). It is expected that children will care for elders in their old age. For the family in the U.S., living out that value means listening to the opinions of those older than you and heeding their advice, when it makes sense to do so. Though these two families share the same value, their behaviors are different based on their local culture and upbringing.

Table of contents
Why are family values important?
How do you instill family values?
How to decide what your family values are
16 examples of family values

Why are family values important?

1. They help family members make decisions

One of the biggest advantages of establishing and knowing your values is that it makes decisions so much easier. When you know what your family prioritizes, most of the time, you know which decision is best.

For example, if it's 6 p.m. on Wednesday, and you're still at work, but you know you have a rule that you always eat dinner together as a family tradition, then you know what to do: Pack up and head home for a meal with your spouse and kids.

2. They guide your parenting

Family values will also shape how you raise your children. For instance, if equity is a family value, then spending more time reading books with your child who struggles with reading makes more sense to your other children who do not struggle with reading.

Instead of looking unfair because you're spending more time with one child over another, by articulating the definition of equity and discussing it as a family value, your other children will understand that behavior.

3. They cultivate strong bonds and cohesiveness

Family values also create a shared identity, something you and your relatives can rally around. This fosters a sense of family unity that makes the home more harmonious and less stressful.

4. They diminish confusion, especially for young children

Growing up, young children interact with all sorts of people with varying backgrounds. If a child doesn't know their family values, this can be a confusing time for them. Values are part of how they'll make sense of the world.

5. Family values build a strong moral compass

As they get older, children will have to make their own decisions, and their family values will give them a strong moral compass to follow as they navigate difficult times in a world outside their homes.

How do you instill family values?

Verbal

Some families verbalize their values by talking about them explicitly. Some might write down their list of values and even hang them on a wall.

If a daughter gets upset that her dad lets her brother use the trampoline this is an opportunity to verbally remind her of their list of values, which includes sharing.

The dad might sit her down and explain, “I know you really want to use the trampoline. But you've gotten to use it every day for the past week, and today is the only time your brother has asked to use it. The trampoline belongs to everyone in this household, and as a family, we value sharing. This is a chance to share with your brother. You'll get to use it again once he's done because he will share it with you too.”

Nonverbal

By far, though, the most common way of instilling strong family values is through nonverbal means, such as everyday life behaviors or an annual tradition. This is especially important for young kids, who have not yet mastered verbal communication. Think about it: Babies learn by watching what their parents do. In the same way, your family members will infer family values from what they see you do.

Actions speak louder than words, as they say, and that saying holds true for family values. You may tell your relatives that fairness is important to your family, but if you insist on hosting Christmas dinner at your house every year, even though other relatives have expressed a desire to host, your actions are not aligned with your stated values. This can lead adult family members to think you're disingenuous. For children, it can be confusing when family core values aren't followed.

How to decide what your family values are

Take time for reflection and journaling

Most people don't think about or articulate their family values. Normally, these values are simply passed on from generation to generation. But if you want to strengthen your family culture or change your parenting style, this is a fantastic opportunity to reflect on the family values you currently have. Take the time to put them into words, and decide if they are values you want to keep or modify.

Pull out a pen and paper or open up your F4S journal, on your computer by logging in. Ask yourself, “What is important to my family and me?” If you don't know where to start, begin by looking at how you spend family time. Where we spend our time and energy typically reflects what we value. From there, you can distill those activities into family values.

If you struggle to put pen to paper (or mouse to digital journal!) at F4S our team has had great success using an Expression Deck with kids and family members. It's a deck of cards your family can use as journal prompts. Make it a daily family ritual - kids love it!

the expression deck helps uncover family values

It's important to look at the big picture and consider your family structure. "What family dynamics do I want to keep and which ones would I like to change?" and "Do I want a traditional family structure or do I want to create new traditions to follow?"

You might also ask yourself, “What kind of adults do I want my children to grow up to be?” and “What do I want my family to be remembered for?” These are good questions to spark fruitful introspection.

Uncover your motivations

If you want to fast-track finding your values, F4S can help. With our free assessment, you'll uncover your top motivational traits. You'll have a clear picture of what you naturally value - and you'll even come to know blindspots. These can be areas that you might not have thought about before but might want to develop and instill in your family life.  

uncover your family values with the F4S assessment

You can even invite your family members to take the free assessment too! Then set up a team and invite them to join so you can compare your results to understand your key differences and similarities. You might uncover that some family relations thrive within rules while others prefer out-of-the-box thinking. It might be the perfect family meeting on a Friday night (don't forget the popcorn).

Talk to your family unit about it

Of course, family values aren't just about you. They affect every member of your family. Build a healthy family by inviting them to be a part of defining those values. You can start with a summary of the notes you gathered from journaling and what motivations you uncovered in your F4S assessment. Then, open up the floor to your entire family and ask them for their thoughts and what they would add or take away from your list. You might even enjoy writing a family mission statement to go along with your values.

16 examples of family values

Need some help to understand? Here are 16 examples of family values.

Respecting your elders

Respecting one's elders is a traditional value that all kinds of families hold, particularly in cultures where family is more important than, say, a career. But what it means to respect your elders varies depending on the family. Some people might show that value by listening to their grandparents' stories and paying them regular visits. Others might show that value by providing care for elders in their own homes. Or letting them make some of the important decisions in the household.

Faith

Religious values often mean the family identifies as members of a particular religion and follows a common set of strong values. Faith informs moral values as well and is often shown through religious practices such as praying or attending church.

Kindness

Kindness means treating others with respect and care and offering help as needed. Many parents strive to instill the value of kindness in their children by encouraging them to be nice to their siblings and share toys with friends.

Honesty

When we talk about moral values, we can't leave out honesty. Many parents raise their kids to be honest, encouraging them to tell the truth and not to lie.

Family

Yes, family itself can be a family value! And it's a popular one at that. Many people choose to put family first, above work and school, by spending time with their children, spouses, or parents. They may have family traditions like a family reunion or yearly vacation so that relatives get to bond in person. Family as a value is also demonstrated via family time, where members of the household (parents, children, grandparents, etc.) eat dinner together or host a movie or game night.

Hard work

Hard work is a common value in the American family, where the common narrative is that if you work hard, you'll succeed. This is often shown through putting a lot of effort into their jobs. They seek better employment opportunities through promotions and raises and try to always do their best (instead of merely getting by). This can also be applied to school, where children are told to study hard and get good grades. One example of how hard work as a value might show up is in a family tradition where each generation takes over the family business.

Education

Speaking of studying hard and getting good grades, education is another common family value. Often, parents will encourage their children to pursue higher education, and this family value can hold particularly strong in families where the children will be first-generation college graduates. The goal behind this value is to set their children up for better career opportunities and wealth than their parents and previous generations had.

Career

Related to education, careers can be a family value. Working parents set an example for their children by pursuing well-paying or meaningful jobs, expressing the satisfaction they glean from their work and teaching their children to get good jobs as well.

Giving

Giving, such as donating money to a nonprofit or volunteering time to your community, is a family value that can encourage selflessness and kindness.

Integrity

Integrity is a foundational value because it sets a person up for having strong moral values in general. A person who has integrity is honest, knows right from wrong, and chooses to do the right thing.

Independence

While it may seem antithetical to the idea of family (a unit and togetherness), independence is actually a useful family value. It instills in children a sense of autonomy, especially as they mature, that sets them up for success as adults. Obviously, given developmental differences, children should be given different levels of independence depending on their capacity and maturity level.

A mother, for example, may decide to let her son start walking to school alone when he reaches 10 years of age. This can help instill confidence and independence in the child, letting him know she trusts him to take care of himself and make good decisions.

Communication

Communication is vital for any relationship-including family relationships. Families who value communication cultivate open conversations and the sharing of different viewpoints. For this to happen, members of the family need to feel safe to be vulnerable and say what they really think. Being able to speak one's mind about family issues, without retribution, is the clearest way to be able to work through issues. Being able to express oneself openly can help with feeling a sense of belonging and help the person sort out complicated feelings.

Health

Families have various ways of showing that they care about health. A parent who regularly reminds their child to play outside and cooks nutritious meals with lots of vegetables probably values physical health. A dad who asks his daughter how her day went and tells her it's okay to cry when she starts tearing up probably values emotional health. Families, together, may choose to do things to promote wellbeing by participating in family therapy or exercising together.

Civic participation

Civic participation as a family value can enhance a sense of agency, especially in children, allowing them to find their voice and feel that they can make a difference. Families that value civic participation might attend a protest together, encourage voters to get to the polls, or organize a community cleanup.

Responsibility

Like independence, responsibility tends to increase according to a person's age and maturity. Parents instill responsibility into their children by assigning chores, and parents model responsible behavior by owning up to their actions and taking care of the things placed in their possession.

Friendship

Fulfilling, meaningful friendships enrich our lives. Parents can model this value of friendship in the way they care for their own friends, inviting them over for social events, sending them birthday gifts, or giving them a call just to chat. By encouraging children to nurture their friendships, parents set their kids up for a more robust life and social safety net outside of the home.

Family values aren't set in stone. As time passes and people mature, your priorities and beliefs may change. The important thing is to maintain self-awareness, reflection, and open communication with your relatives so that your family values are always clear and in alignment.

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